What is relationship abuse?

Abuse and/or violence between two people in a relationship can happen to anyone, anywhere and at any time.

An abusive relationship isn’t just physical violence, it’s also when someone purposefully controls, manipulates or threatens another person. It could be something as ‘harmless’ as monitoring where you spend your money or your social media accounts.

Need someone to talk to or know someone who does?

Call us: 0330 0945 559

If you are in immediate danger please call 999




Does someone close to you:


  • Threaten or humiliate you, alone or in front of others?
  • Damage your belongings?
  • Control what you do?
  • Control who you talk to and what you do online?
  • Control how you spend or access money?
  • Follow or visit you without your permission?
  • Criticise you and constantly put you down?
  • Blame their culture, religion or personal problems as an excuse for their behaviour toward you?
  • Push, bully, slap, kick, punch or seriously hurt you?
  • Force you to have sex with them?
  • Force you to make decisions you don’t want to?
  • Make you fear your safety?

Does your friend or loved one fit any of these descriptions and they can’t seem to explain why ?


  • Low self-esteem
  • Extremely apologetic
  • Agitated
  • Anxious
  • Developing a drug or alcohol problem
  • Low mood
  • Loss of interest in daily activities
  • Talking about or attempting suicide
  • ‘Walking on eggshells’ around their partner
  • Getting excessive calls or texts from their partner checking where they are
  • Have frequent bruises or injuries with a weak or inconsistent explanation, e.g. black eyes, broken bones, red marks on their neck, sprained wrists

We’re always by your side

We’re always by your side

If you feel trapped and isolated by abusive behaviour, know that you don’t have to go through this alone. We’ll be here to support and walk alongside you when you need someone to be there. That’s a promise.

We’re open to everyone

We’re open to everyone

Anyone can be affected by relationship abuse. That’s why we work with people from all walks of life, all genders and all ages. If we don’t have a programme that’s right for you, we’ll point you in the right direction to ensure you’re taken care of.

We’ll value your safety

We’ll value your safety

We understand that reaching for support isn’t easy. Our expertise and experience means we really do understand how important confidentiality and flexibility is for your safety. We’ll work with you to find a plan that prioritises that.

We’ll respect your choices

We’ll respect your choices

We’ll listen to what you want, and we won’t judge or force you into something that you don’t feel is right for you. No matter what you choose, we’ll make our support work for you.


Call us

If you live in North Staffordshire: 0330 0945 559 9am–5pm, Monday to Friday.

If you live in Derby or Derbyshire: 0133 2985 111 9am-8pm, Monday to Friday and 10am-4pm Saturday.

If you are in immediate danger please call 999


Text us

If you need advice or support about domestic abuse, text 07451 288 150

The service operates 7 days a week from 10am until 10pm and we will get back to you within 24 hours.

On Mondays and Thursdays, the helpline will be staffed by our dedicated children and young people team, between 4pm and 10pm, to help support those experiencing or witnessing abuse.


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