Help for those responsible for abuse

We recognise that acknowledging abusive behaviour is difficult and an important first step in breaking the cycle and changing how you treat your loved ones.

No matter your background, circumstances or gender, if you want to change, we can work with you to end your abusive behaviour by learning how to demonstrate love in a safe and healthy way. Additionally, our team can provide a range of specialist support to the entire family to look after their safety and wellbeing, ensuring everyone can live their life without abuse for the long-term.

We are a CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) accredited provider for our domestic abuse prevention programmes. Click here to visit their website.

Need someone to talk to or know someone who does?

If you are in immediate danger please call 999

How can we help?

We provide the following support:

  • One-to-one and Respect accredited group work tailored around your circumstances and relationships
  • Programmes designed to help prevent domestic violence and abuse
  • A six month post-programme course to help you continue your recovery
  • Dedicated support to those that have been abused or affected by abuse
Things can change

“I have learned that I am responsible for my actions. Those actions have a serious impact on people around me and that with some thought and consideration, the majority of negativity, abuse and violence can be avoided altogether. Glow has helped me think about how I come across to people, how my attitude and actions affect other people and how thinking about this can effect positive change.” 

Adilah's story

What was the challenge?

18-year old Adilah fled her family home after they tried to kidnap and force her into a marriage. She came to Glow from Birmingham to receive support and find refuge accommodation.

Adilah felt uneasy about the move, as she knew that her family would no longer support her. After speaking with our staff, Adilah revealed that she was bi-sexual and was not a practising Muslim, which her family did not agree with. The move, as well as feeling stressed about the situation, had an impact on her completing her education.

How did Glow help?

Glow’s initial focus was on Adilah’s safety, so the team worked with the Police and Forced Marriage Unit, which resulted in her parents being cautioned and issued with a five-year ‘forced marriage order’. 

To enable Adilah to continue her education, staff worked with the local college to make sure she could continue her studies. Glow’s refuge provided a safe environment for Adilah to study, develop her skills and keep in touch with her siblings, with a safety plan in place to ensure her safety.

What was the impact?

Thanks to the support from staff, Adilah:

  • Has begun studying at Hertfordshire, with Glow staff helping her to apply for funding
  • Is able to budget and handle her finances
  • Has grown in confidence and engages with Glow for help
  • Feels she can be open about her sexuality
  • Has developed the necessary life skills to move away while studying at university
Adilah's story

What was the challenge?

18-year old Adilah fled her family home after they tried to kidnap and force her into a marriage. She came to Glow from Birmingham to receive support and find refuge accommodation.

Adilah felt uneasy about the move, as she knew that her family would no longer support her. After speaking with our staff, Adilah revealed that she was bi-sexual and was not a practising Muslim, which her family did not agree with. The move, as well as feeling stressed about the situation, had an impact on her completing her education.

How did Glow help?

Glow’s initial focus was on Adilah’s safety, so the team worked with the Police and Forced Marriage Unit, which resulted in her parents being cautioned and issued with a five-year ‘forced marriage order’. 

To enable Adilah to continue her education, staff worked with the local college to make sure she could continue her studies. Glow’s refuge provided a safe environment for Adilah to study, develop her skills and keep in touch with her siblings, with a safety plan in place to ensure her safety.

What was the impact?

Thanks to the support from staff, Adilah:

  • Has begun studying at Hertfordshire, with Glow staff helping her to apply for funding
  • Is able to budget and handle her finances
  • Has grown in confidence and engages with Glow for help
  • Feels she can be open about her sexuality
  • Has developed the necessary life skills to move away while studying at university
Kelly's story

What was the challenge?

Glow became aware of 19 year-old Kelly’s situation when she had applied for supported housing, and she spoke about issues she was having with her ex-partner. Kelly was distressed as a result of her ex-partner stalking, harassing and threatening her both at college and at work.

The experience had become so bad, that Kelly had thoughts of self-harm and planned to commit to suicide. With no support in place, Glow made it their mission to support Kelly and improve her life.

How did Glow help?

Staff worked with Kelly to understand what support she needed. Kelly was initially distrustful of Glow because of past experiences with other agencies which had been unable to help her. 

Staff got to work straight away, supporting Kelly to rebuild her life. Glow assisted Kelly to report her ex-partner to the police, attend police interviews and to access her local GP to get medication for her mental health, as well as emotionally supporting her through this.

Now able to trust Glow, Kelly continued her progress with further support from staff. She attended courses on anger management, positive mental health, one-to-one and group support. As a result, Kelly felt ready to move into her own home.

What was the impact?

As a result of the support Kelly received from Glow, she:

  • Has returned to her employment
  • No longer feels angry or suicidal
  • Has built up a support network of friends
  • Feels empowered, confident and is now independent
  • Understands and seeks help from professionals, rather than ignoring her problems
  • Is now debt free
Kelly's story

What was the challenge?

Glow became aware of 19 year-old Kelly’s situation when she had applied for supported housing, and she spoke about issues she was having with her ex-partner. Kelly was distressed as a result of her ex-partner stalking, harassing and threatening her both at college and at work.

The experience had become so bad, that Kelly had thoughts of self-harm and planned to commit to suicide. With no support in place, Glow made it their mission to support Kelly and improve her life.

How did Glow help?

Staff worked with Kelly to understand what support she needed. Kelly was initially distrustful of Glow because of past experiences with other agencies which had been unable to help her.

Staff got to work straight away, supporting Kelly to rebuild her life. Glow assisted Kelly to report her ex-partner to the police, attend police interviews and to access her local GP to get medication for her mental health, as well as emotionally supporting her through this.

Now able to trust Glow, Kelly continued her progress with further support from staff. She attended courses on anger management, positive mental health, one-to-one and group support. As a result, Kelly felt ready to move into her own home.

What was the impact?

As a result of the support Kelly received from Glow, she:

  • Has returned to her employment
  • No longer feels angry or suicidal
  • Has built up a support network of friends
  • Feels empowered, confident and is now independent
  • Understands and seeks help from professionals, rather than ignoring her problems
  • Is now debt free

Need someone to talk to or know someone who does?

If you are in immediate danger please call 999

More about Glow

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