Steve* was referred to Glow earlier this year following a number of abusive experiences with his partner. He had been abused both verbally and physically, including name calling, biting and choking.

During his relationship, Steve was unable to call for help. When he tried to contact the police, his abuser broke his phone. He was trapped and unable to live life on his terms.

At one point his hand was broken trying to protect himself.

“He (Steve’s ex-partner) made threats against me, but also my mum, that made me go back to him even though I knew he would be abusive to me again.” explains Steve.

“I couldn’t risk leaving him as he always found a way of getting me to go back, even if that meant him threatening to take his own life.”

Luckily, Steve ultimately managed to escape his home and find a phone box, where he called for help.

Steve was then referred to our Derbyshire IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advisor) service. He is now being supported and is working to regain the independence that his abuser took from him.

Steve added: “My IDVA has been really good at listening to me and understanding what it is like to be under the control of someone and how powerless that makes you feel.”

Domestic abuse can affect anyone. No matter your background, identity or circumstances, anyone could be a victim of relationship abuse. Research from Stonewall shows that 1 in 4 lesbian and bi women and 49% of gay and bi men have experienced some form of domestic abuse from a family member or partner.

At Glow, we offer support specialist support to anyone affected by domestic abuse. If you need support, click here. 

*name changed to protect identity.